To always live in constant fear of at some point having to have this conversation…

Don’t most people do this, to some degree? In the very same episode, touching upon the same theme the Janitor says to Carla: “You know what? You hide it well, but you’re a very strange person”.

Divulging some types of information tends to change everything when it comes to how another person thinks of you, and often the change can never be undone. This is both a scary insight and a completely normal and integrated part of ‘standard social interaction’ with others.

Here’s a somewhat related comic – sometimes the gradual information supply approach is ‘optimal’ given the incentives we face, but that doesn’t make it any less dishonest.